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  • Writer's pictureJinansha Badjatiya

Making Your Own Identity

Updated: May 4


Often we live with an external locus of control and we may fear losing such schemas as they challenge us to work on ourselves. As much as we crave working on ourselves, I fear we have made “Mental Health Awareness” a complicated phenomenon because sometimes, and most of the times change starts small, little things are never little.  


In today's world, navigating the complexities of identity formation can be challenging. While our environment and past experiences undoubtedly shape us, the humanistic perspective emphasizes our inherent capacity for self-actualization (Maslow, 1943). This means taking ownership of our identity by making conscious choices that align with our values and aspirations, ultimately fostering mental well-being. This article explores how individuals, particularly students, can embark on this journey of self-discovery, outlining practical steps for developing authentic identity (Rogers, 1961) through self-reflection, value identification, and building supportive relationships. By embracing their true selves and living congruently with their values, college students can navigate the path to mental and personal fulfillment.  

Picture this: you're at a bustling cafeteria, everyone seemingly having their own "thing" going on. Maybe the girl beside you carries a well-worn copy of Sylvia Plath while enjoying a bright pink smoothie, or maybe the dude across the table proudly sports mismatched socks and a T-shirt advocating for environmental awareness. Imagine feeling perfectly comfortable amidst this diverse scene, confident in your unique blend of pet love, quirky habits, and firm stances on social justice issues. Research by psychologist Kelly McGonigal suggests that embracing these "imperfections"—your pet love, your idiosyncrasies, your moral compass, and even your ever-evolving views on life—is key to building a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. It's about accepting all the facets that make you, well, you, and understanding that this unique package is pretty darn awesome.


Imagine confiding in a supportive friend, someone who truly listens as you share your latest passion on gender identity, whether it's an unusual hobby or a shifting perspective on life. Their genuine interest creates a safe space for you to explore your unique personality, free from judgment. This resonates with the core principle of positive regard in Humanistic Psychology. Psychologist Carl Rogers (1959) emphasized the importance of feeling valued and accepted by others, which fosters a sense of self-worth and confidence.


While external support is valuable, navigating life's complexities also requires trusting your inner compass even when the path ahead seems unclear. This aligns with the concept of self-actualization in Humanistic Psychology, as championed by Abraham Maslow (1943). He believed individuals possess an innate drive to fulfill their potential and live authentically. Embracing this inner guidance can feel almost magical, empowering you to make choices and pursue dreams even in the face of uncertainty. Ultimately, fostering self-acceptance through trusted connections and inner trust is crucial for navigating life's journey with confidence and fulfillment. Whether it's a supportive friend or your own unwavering belief, believing in yourself can be the most potent magic of all. 


As Abraham Maslow, the father of humanistic psychology, said, "What is a healthy person? It is the person who has not lost his child." Hold onto your wonder, your curiosity, and your zest for life. Remember, as Carl Rogers, another prominent humanistic psychologist, phrased it, "The good life is a process, not a product to be achieved." There will be stumbles and setbacks, but that's part of the beautiful, messy journey of forging your own path. And you don't have to walk it alone. There are resources available to help you navigate the trickier parts. Consider therapy, support groups, or even online communities where you can connect with like-minded individuals. Remember, you are not a diagnosis, a label, or a statistic.


You are a unique story waiting to be written, and you hold the pen.


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